Helping Families and Friends Honor Their Loved One

12th Day


  • Immediately after cremation, bathe by taking a dip in a river, lake or with well water while chanting continuously.
  • For offering tilānjali (Offering sesame seeds [til] and water), the kartā should place some black sesame in a pot containing water. Then the kartā, the family members and other relatives & friends should offer this water containing black sesame thrice on the ashma along the pitru-tīrtha (Area of the palm between the thumb and the index finger portion) of their palms while uttering ‘एष ते तिलतोयाञ्जलिस्तवोपतिष्ठताम्’,Meaning ‘tilānjali is being offered unto you’ while mentioning the gotra (Lineage according to Vedic science) and the name of the deceased. One whose father is alive should not offer tilānjali.
  • After returning home, keep the ashma in the area around the tulsī-vrundāvan (A small rectangular structure in which tulsī [Holy basil] is grown), but not besides the tulsī If tulsī-vrundāvan is not available, then keep the ashma outside the house in a safe place.
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